WAYNE’S WORDS
Volume 5 Number 01
Time Flies And Then It Is Gone
A Month has already passed and one-twelfth of the year is gone! Wow! The time just flies. I hope this coming month is brighter than the past few.
In November, my friend/boss passed to the great beyond. In December, one of my cousins left the world. In January, a friend/co-worker from long ago answered God’s call. And, just yesterday, our Search and Rescue team went to the Gila Wilderness on a body Search and Recovery mission. My team was the group that found him; in fact I was first on scene. Not because I am especially good, I just happened to be the front guy on my squad running up the hill with the helicopter pilot.
There are other people (once or twice removed from me through friends) who have passed recently, but the aforementioned folks were all closely connected to me. (The man in the Gila was because I was on the discovery team.) The grim reaper has just been putting in some overtime close to me.
Just keep in mind that there may not be a tomorrow – for you or someone you love. I don’t mean to sound fatalistic; we just seem to forget that. As I may have mentioned before, I am not the type of person who says “live every day like it is your last day on Earth.” If we did that nothing would get done. There would just be a lot of debauchery happening. Oh. Wait. For a lot of people that IS the way they live. For the rest of us, we still have things to do.
However, maybe we should all try a little less procrastination when it comes to telling those close to us that we love them and how much they mean to us. Maybe you don’t have time to go on a trip with your friend – how about a dinner instead. If there is no time for dinner: maybe a cup of coffee. If there is not even enough time for that, then maybe you could just have a nice visit on the phone – voice, NOT text! I think you get the point. We all need that contact with the people we love. A phone call about something silly can tell someone you care as much as a whole Christmas holiday can.
We should also work at comforting and liking ourselves. I have gotten very good at that. I have really learned to like myself – hell, I love myself. Get your minds out of the gutter! (OK maybe not totally out of the gutter.) I have spent the last couple of years getting reacquainted with me and I found out that I am a helluva guy. In addition, I have been making great strides in bettering my life. I have not made all the changes I want to all at once and some are slower transmogrifications than others, but I am doing it.
The way I see it, how can the people I love value my feelings for them if I place a low price on the way I feel about myself? Now, I am not talking about becoming someone I’m not, nor will I turn into one of those guys who think that they are God’s gift. We have all met those guys and they are just dicks. It is good to be yourself unless you are one of those. They are the people who need to actually change.
Anyway, after you read this, maybe you will call someone you haven’t talked to in a while. Maybe you will make some time for coffee or dinner with a buddy. Hell, maybe a trip with friends is possible. All these things are good for both you and them. And if someone should pass away, maybe you will be able to say “I just had coffee with him the other day and we laughed and laughed.” Instead of “He wanted to hang out last week, but I just didn’t have the time.”
Until Next Time,
Wayne
